No "Yelling" Over Spilled Milk

I feel so bad for losing my temper with Keanu lately. Let's just face it, pretty much everything that he does that makes me raise my voice to him are things that he doesn't do deliberately. What I mean by that is he truly is a good boy and really doesn't expect to make me upset. He is warm hearted, sweet, happy, smiling and really a people pleaser. But, gosh, sometimes there are just things he does that just makes me "lose it". But, why? I can sit here typing this knowing deep down that he doesn't mean to do things to make me mad. In fact, I think in his cute little head of his he thinks he's helping me.

So, back to the "why?". I know why... it's because I have not learned to just "let things go". Who cares if he spills some milk, right? I mean, those are things that are so minuscule. Yea, sure, sometimes he does things to test me, but what toddler doesn't do that? I just need to calm the heck down and love him for even trying. I should be happy that he wants to try to do all sorts of things himself. It will make him an independent person later in life.

I guess correcting and scolding are two different things. I think I've been scolding him lately and not correcting his actions. Or, is "correcting" even a good term to use too? I believe teaching him is the best. Perhaps I haven't been the best teacher. How will he learn if he does not explore and make mistakes. Although sometimes he does not seem to learn from his mistakes.

My goal is not to scold or yell at him anymore. What's the point? It may just scar him later in life and I don't want that. I am really lucky to have such a good child and I am probably slowly chipping away at his happiness which may warp him as he gets older.

I'll Start Here

A little over a month ago I was a mother to one child, a 2 and half year old. Things were somewhat simple and becoming more routine. As Keanu has been getting older he has become more self efficient and more independent. It was becoming quite nice not having to tend to his every need. For the past year, I also have been pregnant with our 2nd boy. I also had quite an uncomfortable last few months of my pregnancy so moving around tending to Keanu was becoming difficult. He still required me changing his clothes, bathing, potty training etc. But, having a child that can walk, talk and do many things for himself was good timing with my pregnancy.

Then, Kanoa arrived! What a cute bundle of joy. Grandma was here helping out, but I discovered that was not exactly what I expected and I'll elaborate on that later in another blog, but being suddenly thrusted in caring for two children seriously turned OUR world upside down. And, I don't mean just mine and my husband's. I know it has been quite an adjustment for Keanu. I already discovered what to do and what not to do already with a toddler who isn't getting all the attention anymore.

My main concern with Keanu is still giving him the right amount and quality attention while also having to tend to Kanoa who does require more attention at this time. I don't want Keanu to have issues with this whole chapter in his life later in life. I grew up an only child so I don't know what it's like to share parents.

So, this is where I'll start my blog... talking about Keanu and what is working and not working. I am no expert, but with everyday being a new experience I may just someday become an parenting guru!